Emotional Goal Day: No Negatives

Well, it's the close of our physical goal week and the beginning of
our emotional. I hope you all met your physical goal of calling the
doctor or dentist. I am happy because for the first time in quite a
while I feel empowered and that is in part due to the fact that I
actually accomplished that goal last week. I'm feeling so empowered
that I am counting calories. I really feel Heaven's help on that one.
But more on that later. Right now I want to talk about this week's
goal.
How many times a day do you dis on yourself? How many times do you
chide yourself for not being better, faster, smarter, kinder,
skinnier, and a million other "ers"? How many times a day do you think
"I'm too _________"... fat, ugly, blond, brunette, tired, weak, dumb,
saggy, baggy, ornery, lazy, etc. etc.? How many times do you say "I'm
constantly __________" ... failing, eating too much chocolate,
watching too much TV, yelling, worrying, stressing, etc. etc.? If you
are anything like me, these types of communications to yourself are
regular... common... Okay, happen ALL the time.
Our poor emotional selves. We don't stand a chance with all our
self-belittlement.

So the goal for this week is to stop the negativity. Can we go one
week without letting the liitle negative monster loose on our selves?
Let's try. Now I'm not suggesting we never have a negative thought,
but I'm talking about what we do with that thought. Here is a scenario
to explain what I mean. We look in the mirror and immediately notice
the wrinkles around our eyes and the thought pops into our head "I
look so old!" and instead of fighting it, we accept that thought as
gospel truth just because it popped in our head. Instead of just
accepting it and then forever labeling ourselves as "old looking"
fight it and when that thought comes say "No, these lines are
beautiful and show how much I laugh." And then when the guilty thought
pops in your head and says "I don't laugh enough with my kids." say
"No, that's not true. I do a good job of balancing my responsibilities
and playing with my kids." or if it really is true then say "No, I
haven't laughed much with my kids. I will do that today."
The little negative monster will always show his ugly head, but the
key to good emotional health is shoving him back into the closet where
he belongs.
Once again, follow-up on Thursday as to how you are doing on your
goal, whether in your own journal or leaving a comment on here. And
may I suggest a reminder for this goal - just a little piece of paper
that's says "No Negative" -probably best displayed on a mirror where
the little negative monster most often decides to show himself.